Let Latitude Be the Choice: “We demand freedom“: Voice of Pakistani Youth.
It’s the story of every Pakistani student, once you’re done with your secondary education, and if you have scored way above the expectations of your family and relatives, you’ve opened the door for a whole lot of free uncalled-for-suggestions coming your way. I’ve experienced it, almost everybody does, you will receive calls from the elders and the so-called “INTELLIGENSTIA” i.e. your genius-most-cousins who have with the sweat of their brow, or should I say with the superb power of cramming they were born with, procured for themselves positions every one covets for, and who ATM are covertly envious of your good grade ( JEALOUSBONES, Hmph! ) for you’ve beaten their best. This is the time for them to lay the snare and get you trapped in a two-year CONTINOUS ENDEAVOR FOR GETTING INTO A PROFESSIONAL COLLEGE. But the tragedy of your life has been: you’ve been a happy-go-lucky kind of a person all your life (When you saw your above 90 percent score you yourself were equally astounded at the occurrence of this miracle).
plus you have no personal interest in MATH or BIOLOGY, fashion designing has always been your aspiration, science for you is nothing more than an albatross around your neck that can only get in the way of your becoming an illustrious FASHION DESIGNER. Or maybe you have always had an eye for fine arts, you’ve always dreamt of getting admission into a fine arts college, because you find it really cool and in harmony with your lighthearted disposition also because during your school years you’ve always come up with the most amazing and innovative plans regarding the décor of your class even your house et cetera, have always been extolled for your extraordinary creative skills. But despite a history of laudable artistic work, here you are right now, stuck with a family that is literally weeping and whining over your choice of a future career. Your father strongly disapproves your choosing arts over science; the silence of your mother is also an explicit “NO” to your PICK. You have got a mean streak as well but you love and revere your parents anyhow, If this is your presenting complain know it fella you’re stuck in the career choice conundrum.
You consider yourself impervious to their pleas, but believe it or not you’ll have to surrender, emotional blackmailing stuff is DESI PARENTS FORTE. This is exactly the gimmick they are going to play on you to make you give up on your ambition of becoming an artist. Given below is a little example of how they’ll overcome the resistance you’re manifesting to their desire:
An emotionally charged Dialogue:
[Between your DESI parents and you]
Beta! We always thought you would grow-up into a subservient and respecting young lady, who would always defer to the wishes of her parents, we had always envisioned you donning a white-coat and serving humanity, besides you have got a good grade why waste your life on menial careers, what possible fortune would a FASHION DESIGNER make in this country? and would this career earn you the respect of this society?
(Removes his spectacles to wipe the tears that had gathered in his eyes while he threw at you this fervent lecture off)
Beta larkio ko doctor banna chahye, girls are a huge responsibility upon the shoulders of their parents, moreover in these times people have gotten pretty picky, all they look for is a Doctor or engineer bahu.. Don’t stick obstinately to your views, please choose SCIENCE beta, you’ll have deep regrets otherwise one day when all your friends will be serving as doctors or engineers and will get a spouse of their dream. Wese to taqdeer ALLAH likhta hai par ese khud paon par kulhara nhi marte. I want you to be a doctor, Dig?
*Complete silence follows*
(Heaving a heart-rending sigh) Your wish is my command my master!
*The things I do for love*
PRESSURE can lead to your sons taking the coward’s way out:
And there have been recorded some instances where the parents don’t even bother to ask for the child’s opinion, and get him enrolled in an institute of their own will. Recently a boy who was admitted to a medical school by his father-who was ready to spend a 45 lac on his only son, took the cowards way out. Details of this case told he never wanted to be a doctor couldn’t handle much pressure one of his studies as he flunked in a subject in his first professional and the other financial one as he didn’t come of a well-off family and his father had to cut down his expenses, sell all his property, and got into debt just to give his son a quality education. The boys dream was to be LAWYER; he was coerced into joining medical. So finally he got rid of both “medical and his life”.
Better safe than Sorry:
When would the desi parents ever understand it’s better to be safe than sorry? Life is just given once let peace of mind be the priority. Troubled souls culminate in troubled grown-ups. Let your children choose. God has his plans for everyone, they won’t starve to death, put your trust in ALLAH.
Let them be what they want to be:
This grave problem must be immediately attended to, stereotyping professionals i.e. doctors and engineers as being superior over the rest is totally wrong. Parents in the foreign countries don’t always force their children to adopt the careers chosen by them, and they offer them the liberty to “be what they want to be”. Are they not far ahead of us in every field of life we are still living in the stone ages this is our sick mentality that makes us straggle behind the developed states. We make our children putty in hands, their brains are designed to follow our commands. So, in the end what can we expect from an automaton who’s been fed with all the instructions i.e. what to do and what not to, I Wish somebody talks some sense in such parents and let the children choose their careers or people will keep on considering the DOCTORS & ENGINEERS “GODS AND GODDESSES” which they sure aren’t!
And before I wrap this topic up just a piece of advice to the desi parents from me “Cut your children some slack PLEASE.”