“Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success.”
–Paul J. Meyer
Effective communication helps us better understand a person or situation and enables us to resolve differences, build trust and respect, and create environments where creative ideas, problem solving, affection, and caring can flourish. By adopting these effective communication skills, you can better manage your spouse, kids, friends, and coworkers
Communication is a great art. In order to be successful, one must know how to communicate well. There are many secrets of good communication. Below are 12 secrets of good communication.
1. Build the rapport first.
It is very important to build a close and harmonious relationship with someone before talking with them. There is no point in talking to someone if he/she doesn’t hold a good image of you. If you want to communicate well, first develop a pleasant persona of yourself. Remove the relationship friction before talking and build a friendly bond with the other person. There is a strong need to connect in order to have an effective communication.
2. Develop People Skills.
People skills are the binding pillar of every great communicator. It is the root which sustains long lasting relationships. People skills include your way of connecting with someone, your friendliness, able to handle criticism positively, emotional intelligence etc.Great communicators communicate consistently. Their communication and people skills are always present.
3. Develop a powerful ELEVATOR PITCH. An elevator pitch is a short summary used to quickly and simply define a person, profession, product, event etc. Before initiating a conversation with someone, make sure you have made a strong alluring summary of what you want to talk about. Showcase Your Personality with a very powerful start. It will leave an everlasting impact on that person.
4. Maintain Good Eye Contact.
Eye contact is very important for building up good ambiance between too people. It is said that eyes are the window to soul. And one can reach out to the strings of someone’s heart through eyes. So make sure you have a strong but not too intense eye contact with the person you are talking.
When you’re speaking with someone, look them in the eye and show enthusiasm. This seems simple, but most of the people don’t always do it.
5. Drop the EGO FACTOR.
Drop down the EGO attitude and replace it with love and peace. Ego will only make things worse for you. Make a deep personal connection and demonstrate your personality with a positive vibration.
6. Radiate Passion.
Radiate great passion and enthusiasm. Speak passionately about everything you want and let it shine through. Add up energy to your conversation by coloring it with strong zest and zeal. Don’t talk with low energy and indifference.
7. Listen with empathy.
King Solomon said, “Give me the gift of a listening heart.” While talking, listen with empathetic emotions. Don’t judge too much but listen with an impartial approach. The person talking to you will get a good vibration from you and feel encouraged to talk with you.
Smile! If words are the soul of communication then smile is the heart of it. Smile because it is a curve that that sets everything straight! Your smile is powerful. It delivers strong feelings of love and joy to the other person. Keep smiling because it is contagious.
9. Listen to the nonverbal communication the other person exhibits.
Nonverbal communication is a powerful voice in any interaction. The voice tonality, body language, and facial expressions speak more clearly than the verbal language (sending) or the actual words in many communication exchanges. Pay attention to the facial expressions, the gestures and the distance of that person from you as he speaks because they are all powerful messengers. It is said that great communicators listen with their eyes. As Peter Drucker said, “The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.”
10. Have a YOU attitude.
While speaking, adopt the YOU-ARE-MORE-IMPORTANT attitude. Have a mild personality that always makes other feel good and important. Adopt a positive “YOU-ATTITUDE” that make others feel appreciated. It will greatly enhance the quality of your conversation.
11. Be Open to New Ideas.
Try to encourage the other person as he speak and be more receptive to his views. Don’t puh him back a he speaks about his views because it will hinder his natural flow of communication with you. Try to welcome the new ideas of others by giving them a positve signal.
12. Listen more than you speak. Be an active listener. Don’t rush to make a reply. Listen attentively with deep interest. Great talkers are also great listeners. So in order to be a good communicator, you must also learn to be a good listener. As Ernest Hemingway said, “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”
Good communication is not rocket science. However, one must learn to be pure and joyous in heart. If you learn these secrets and apply them in your everyday lives, you will feel a big difference around you!